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You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

Kahil Gibran

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Tuesday
25Sep2007

Saying "I love you"

handholding.jpgHaving recently descended to once again stick my big toe into the dating pool, my inner workings have run me up one side of the mountain and down the other on this subject of “love.” I am exhausted, and this is as good a time as any to pause.

Still, I am intrigued by Susan Mernit’s piece, “When do you say the “L” word?” Here is the part I find most intriguing about this whole topic: I am able to feel love for someone who proclaims not to be able to feel love for me.

How can that be?

I mean really, isn’t love suppose to be this effervescent, all-consuming, pollutant that permeates every space of our environment like the aroma of truckloads of blossoming roses in an open air market?!! How is it possible for one individual to inhale a whiff of love’s perfume only to completely miss the snout of the living, breathing pile of deliciousness snuggled up an arm hair’s space away? I don’t know about you, but to me it does not seem possible. However, my life’s experiences assure me first-hand that this may be so—or at least that is what they tell me... Or it may be that the warm specimen by my side is congested and therefore truly inhales the reason-blurring, mind-numbing, sensitivity-exploiting toxin sometime later following a good head clearing. But by the time we get this far, the drama has spun to a new level…at least for some of us I hear.

So anyway, intention is direct my thoughts back to what is real. What is it I truly feel? Then I listen for what needs to happen next—and remarkably my still small voice responds with useable answers. I have discovered it is not always necessary to say what comes to mind [or heart] in words, in part because it is steadily evolving, in part because words uttered may reek havoc on an other wise enjoyable, embryonic moment.

It is a different way for me to be in the world. But if figure it offers a unique way to both give and receive.

In joy,

Umoja

Reader Comments (5)

Sister,
What a very thoughtful post. I followed your link from the blogher post on saying the "L" word. I understand a lot of the reasons people have for being hesistant about saying I Love you. I just want to see people less guarded and more courageous and bold in their affections and feelings--not to please someone else but to feel happy inside themselves.
Sep 25, 2007 at 07:12 | Unregistered CommenterLovebabz
Umoja,
I didn't mean to say Sister. I am so used to talking about this issue with women that I didn't even think twice. So forgive me.
Love,
Babz
Sep 25, 2007 at 07:21 | Unregistered CommenterLovebabz
No worries! I answer to "sister," "auntie" and a few other names!

In joy,
Umoja
Sep 25, 2007 at 07:24 | Registered CommenterUmoja Joy
Thanks,
I am so not pc and I wouldn't want to offend. I call every woman sister. And believe it or not I have been taken to task for it. Such is the world...sometimes.
I love your blog, it is very peaceful feeling.
Sep 25, 2007 at 07:30 | Unregistered CommenterLovebabz
Thank you for your kind words! My intention is to add a sense of peace to our world.

Umoja
Sep 26, 2007 at 07:02 | Registered CommenterUmoja Joy

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